Sexercise with your Lover

Do you know how to do “Sex Up” exercises with your lover?

Begin naked, one person lies down on the floor face up while the other lies on top face down towards their partner’s feet(as in the sixty-nine position). With palms at shoulder level, legs apart on either side of lover’s head, the person on top pushes him or herself up and then down so that both lovers are able to kiss each other’s genitals.

Can you think of any other Sexercises to do with your lover?

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Jesse James Denies he is a Sex Addict

Jesse James used his bad childhood as an excuse for cheating, saying that he “never felt good enough” on last night’s Nightline interview. By not being good enough, I’m presuming that he is saying that he didn’t feel worthy of being married to Oscar winning Actress Sandra Bullock, but he did feel worthy of having sex with at least five other women.

Jesse James was raised by his single dad who allegedly beat, humiliated and at age seven broke his arm. So Jesse says he grew up with feelings of shame, fear and abandonment which is what lead to his trying to “self-sabotage” his life.

My theory is that many adults were abused physically, emotionally and even sexually as children but were able to overcome adversity by empowering themselves to take responsibility for their actions and not use their past as an excuse for bad behavior.

The cause of Jesse’s infidelity was probably more to do with his hormones than anything else. You see relationships go through three stages of emotions and hormone changes that affect our sex drive. The first stage is  LUST which releases the sexual hormones testosterone and estrogen. In this stage, you feel excited by the thought of your lover and eager to be with them as much as you can.

Stage two is the ROMANTIC ATTRACTION stage where your brain is now releasing the feel good hormone, dopamine that can make you feel lovesick.

Stage three is EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT where the brain releases Serotonin and Oxytocin, bonding hormones that can deepen the feelings of attachment. However, at this stage  the lust and the romantic attraction stages fade, so it is not uncommon to look for those lustful and romantic feelings elsewhere.

So it’s probable that Jesse and Sandra were in the Attachment stage of their relationship, so he was vulnerable to the temptations of lust when it was flaunted at him.

The bottom line is that if you don’t evoke the feelings of lust, attraction and romance in your relationship, it will become less sexual and you or your partner are more likely to stray and cheat with someone new who gives you the thrill of excitement that you crave.

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Please Your Lover with Advanced Foreplay

The Steaming Diamond foreplay technique isn’t just a prelude to sex, but it can be the main event, especially when you engage all of the senses. With a little preparation, you can get your lover’s juices flowing to put them in the mood for an unforgettable sexual experience.

1    You’ll need 2 washcloths, a bowl of hot water and a pair of scissors.

2    Cut a four-inch diagonal slit in the middle of each washcloth.

3    Fill a bowl with hot water and soak both washcloths.  Wring out one of the cloths.

4    Take the wrung out cloth, rotate it 45 degrees until it looks like a diamond.

5    Place it over your lover’s pubic area with the top of the diamond touching the pubic hair. Line the slit up with your lover’s genitals and use your hands to press and hold the washcloth in place.

6    Insert your mouth between the slit and make oral sex magic happen. Use some of System JO’s flavored lube for added oral fun.

7    After a few minutes, the cloth will have cooled.  Replace it with the one warming in the bowl and give your lover another diamond!

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Kisses To Please Your Lover

A kiss can be one of the most erotic exchanges between lovers.  A kiss is often the first intimate physical contact with a new lover and some people believe they can tell a lot about a person’s lovemaking skills by the way they kiss.  Some people can reach orgasm through kissing alone. Not wanting to be kissed by your partner is a signal of trouble in the relationship.  Making kissing a daily ritual will embolden and re-ignite passion in your relationship and it will keep the juices flowing. While almost everyone kisses, there is very little information around on how to kiss or what makes a kiss most memorable. Below are 10 ways to please your lover with a kiss.

1. Build anticipation by kissing all around your lover’s face.

2. Trace the outline of your lover’s lips with the tip of your tongue.

3. Begin your kiss slowly and gently with emotion and sensitivity.

4. Kiss without using your tongue, slightly open mouthed, with sweet breath.

5. Take your lover’s bottom lip between the two of yours and suck gently.

6. While kissing, lick you lover’s teeth with your tongue.

7. To increase sexual excitement, make your kiss wet.

8. Wrap you’re your lips around your lover’s tongue and suck passionately.

9. Follow your lover’s kissing techniques and emulate them.

10. Use hot or cold liquids to create erotic sensations.

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Dominate Your Lover

Power Play is healthy in a relationship, whether you take turns initiating romantic dates or lovemaking. Exchanging power during sex and can fun too.

Do you know how to dominate your lover?

Begin with some necessary accessories such as black leather or satin clothes, gloves, a scarf, blindfold and paddle. Tell your lover he/she needs to be punished for bad behavior and take them somewhere you can be completely
in charge. As you describe in graphic detail to your lover how to satisfy you, your body language should be authoritative: shoulders back, head up, hands on hips, and with a confident attitude.  If they don’t comply, give them a gentle spanking.

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10 Steps to Becoming a Great Lover

Here are 10 tips on how to be a great, memorable lover who will be appreciated, desired, admired, wanted, needed and loved. Just follow these steps and you’ll go down in history as one of the world’s greatest lover.

1. Talk to your lover about how you feel

(a) Tell your lover what turns you on

(b) Tell your lover what turns you off

(c) Tell your lover that he/she is making a difference in your life

(d) Tell your lover that you love them just the way they are

2. Discover your lover’s erogenous zones

(a) Giving your lover a full body massage

(b) Kissing and caressing your lover’s imperfections

(c) Ask your lover to tell you where his/her erogenous zones are located

(d) Explore every part of your lover’s body lovingly

3. Ask your lover what he/she really wants

(a) Watch your lover’s body language for approval during love-making

(b) Ask your lover during love-making, how it feels

(c) Ask your lover after love-making, how it felt

(d) Ask your lover what you can do to make love even better

4. Make your lover feel appreciated

(a) Kiss your lover when he/she gives you a gift or compliment

(b) Send your lover small gifts or cards for no particular reason

(c) Tell your lover “I love you” at unexpected times

(d) Hold your lover’s hand and show affection in public places

5. Be a considerate lover

(a) Undress your lover before making love

(b) Spend at least fifteen minutes on foreplay

(c) Allow your lover to have an orgasm first

(d) Cuddle your lover after love-making

6. Be an adventurous lover

(a) Change your favorite love-making position at least once a week

(b) Make love in different locations other than the bedroom

(c) Include sexual enhancements such as adult toys and erotic talk

(d) Surprise your lover with unexpected sexual treats

7. Be a sensitive lover

(a) Satisfy your lover sexually even when you are not in the mood

(b) Listen to your lover’s problems and comfort him/her in your arms

(c) Refrain from having sex if your lover is not in the mood

(d) Don’t criticize your lover during love-making

8. Be a confident lover

(a) Do try to look your best for your lover

(b) Do compliment your lover in front of others

(c) Do offer to make your lover’s fantasies come true

(d) Do striptease or masturbate in front of your lover

9. Be a creative lover

(a) Have phone sex with your lover

(b) Take your lover shopping to adult toy stores and lingerie shops

(c) Blindfold your lover and tease him/her with your tongue

(d) Role-play with your lover…teacher-student…biker-slut…or master-slave

10. Tell your lover what you want

(a) Share what turns you on sexually and why

(b) Share what turns you off and why

(c) Share 3 wishes that will heighten a sexual experience for you

(d) Share 3 sexual fantasies that you would like to turn into reality

Are You a Great Lover?

How do you know if you’re a great lover? Answer these 10 questions to discover if you can call yourself a world class lover, but be honest and don’t exaggerate because everyone has the potential to be awesome between the sheets.

1. Do you set the mood for romance?

Yes No

2. Do you talk to your lover about how you feel about him/her?

Yes No

3. Have you discovered your lover’s erogenous zones?

Yes No

4. Do you know what your lover really wants?

Yes No

5. Do you make your lover feel appreciated?

Yes No

6. Are you a considerate lover?

Yes No

7. Are you an adventurous lover?

Yes No

8. Are you a sensitive lover?

Yes No

9. Are you a confident lover?

Yes No

10. Do you tell your lover what you want?

Yes No If you answered Yes to all 10 questions, you are a great lover and should feel good about yourself. If you answered No to some of these questions, make sure that you are aware of your lover’s needs by asking him/her what turns them on and more importantly what turns them off. The need for communication before, during and after sex is imperative for a successful, lasting and loving relationship. You obviously have the qualities to make a great lover. All you need to do is listen and observe your lover more closely and most importantly use all of your five senses to create a more sensuous sexual experience for you and your lover. If you want to become a great lover, take the Master Sexpert course course now by clicking on the link below: http://loveologyuniversity.com/CourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=30

How to Touch your Man

When it comes to most men, do they crave a particular type of touch? I’ve found that men want more pressure, excitement, spontaneity and creative planning with special focus on their penis.

One of my favorite male touch techniques is called Making Fire. Place the shaft of his penis between the palms of your hands. Move one hand forward and the other backward. His penis is like the stick you twist in your hands on a piece of flint to ignite a fire. Start out slowly and gently, but then speed up your rhythm as he gets more aroused. Make sure to use plenty of oil or lube for this technique such as System Jo Sensual Solutions. Wetter is better!

For some more memorable penis moments, rub it between your fingers, your toes, thighs, butt cheeks, armpit, and even behind your semi-bent knee.

Of course men do enjoy being touched on other parts of their body, so run your fingernails over his pecks, lick his nipples, brush your cheek over his chest hair, pinch his butt, blow your breath on the nape of his neck and nibble gently on his ear lobes.

Then make sure he does the same for you.

Masturbation Month

May is Masturbation Month so celebrate by pleasuring yourself at least once a day. For guys its a biological necessity to climax to keep sperm in better condition for reproduction and even prevent prostate cancer. For women, an orgasm a day will keep the doctor away as it can boost the immune system, alleviates pain, reduces stress and depression, improves the sense of smell, increases blood flow, helps weight loss and works as a natural sleep sedative.

This is the month to buy yourself or your lover a vibrator such as the Bet on Black by Evolved. It’s draped in swirls for you to arouse your most sensitive areas and can be used for pleasure in the front or the back, but never go from back to front and be sure to use plenty of lube such as System JO H20 sensual solutions for men and women. Don’t forget to clean your toy with soap and water or toy cleaner before and after each use.

If you want to meet like-minded people who are exhibitionists, the annual event reaches a climax on May 28th in San Francisco for the “Masturbate- A-Thon, a hands-on-charity event benefiting the Center for Sex and Culture.

So how did Masturbation get a month of its own? It was all thanks to U.S. Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders who was forced to resign when a reporter set her up at the United Nations World AIDS Day in 1994 by asking Elders about masturbation’s potential discouraging early sexual activity. Elders answered,“I think it is something that is part of human sexuality and a part of something that perhaps should be taught.” That open and honest response forced the resignation of U.S. Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders and it was the end of her Washington career, but the beginning of National Masturbation Month under Bill Clinton’s Presidency. A protest effort was started by the company Good Vibrations, not President Clinton and masturbation was out in the open as a healthy form of sexual expression that we have for ourselves, by ourselves, on our own terms.