Orgasm Games

If you think there’s only one way to knock your socks off orgasmically, then you may need a cocktail filled with two parts variety and one part imagination. People orgasm from different types of touch in sensitive areas we sometimes forget. Some people find that incorporating a new touch zone can actually make orgasms more powerful, last longer, and feel even better. With a little exploration and desire to venture outside the box, maybe you can find your missing orgasmic links in these games.

Nipple Tosses

Play a beanbag toss game with your lover to see who will get the nipple-tastic explosion of pleasure. Fill up a plastic bag with flour and make sure it’s tied tight. Then while one of you lays naked on the bed, the other tosses the bag from about 5 feet away. Each person gets 5 tosses and the closest to the bellybutton wins a 5-minute nipple rub and 5 minute nipple sucking to orgasm.  A great nipple technique is to squeeze your fingers together so that you raise your lover’s nipple slightly, and then begin licking it with the tip of your tongue in circular motions. After about a few minutes of licking, pucker your lips around the nipple and suck gently, then more firmly with vacuum sucking motions.

Penis Mambo

Although pretty obvious this orgasm zone can lead to orgasm virtually every time. Challenge your male partner to a penis-balancing contest. Take a ruler from your desk and balance it on his erect penis. He needs to walk 10 paces without allowing the ruler to drop. You can say or do anything you want to distract him without touching him or impeding his walk. If he reaches the 10 paces, he wins a penis orgasm of his choice (oral, anal, vaginal or hand job). If the ruler drops, he loses out on a penis driven orgasm and can be sent away to practice his ruler walk.

Pressing Her Magic Button

The ultimate pleasure zone for most women is the clitoris, a magic button with 8000 nerve fibers. Take a page out of the Carnival game book and fill up 6 cups with water. Then take 3 Ping-Pong balls and challenge your partner to see who can throw the balls inside a cup. Play best of 7 and if she wins, she gets clitoral play to orgasm in any way she desires.

Tooshy Touché

A number of people can experience anal orgasms and you can too. But first have an anal face off using your butts. Take 5 plastic spoons and place them on your bed. Have each partner pick up the spoons with their butt cheeks (no hands), scurry to the other side of the bedroom and drop each spoon in a bucket. The person who drops the most spoons in the bucket or drops the spoon closest to the bucket wins an anal play date for 12 minutes and gets to choose whether it’s a finger, sex toy, mouth or penis for their backside.

Come back for more unique orgasm games to please your lover and keep your love life playful.

Anal August

If you enjoy anal sex, you’ll be pleased to know that its had its own month since 1927 and since then the Supreme Court has ruled anti-sodomy laws as unconstitutional.

Anal sex is not for everyone and that’s okay, but many men and women find it highly erotic and exciting. Like anything else, it’s a good idea to start with baby steps if you want to introduce it to your partner, so here are 12 steps for an awesome anal massage.

1. The best position is any position where you have easy access to your partners back and butt.
2. Help them to relax by using your breath, fingertips and tongue from their neck all the way down their spine.
3. Work your way down the butt crack with feather light touches that barely caresses the skin to arouse goose bumps.
4. Once you have arrived at the buttocks, use all parts of your hand (finger pads, palms, heels etc.) to press into the muscle tissue firmly but gently in a repetitious movement.
5. The fleshy parts of the buttocks can stand more pressure, so squeeze and knead as if you were making bread dough.
6. Spread the cheeks apart as you continue to knead to help open up the sphincter muscles.
7. For extra protection use a finger cot or latex glove so that you won’t hurt your lover with jagged nails. Add plenty of lubricant onto your finger and then gently circle your fingertips around the opening.
8. When the anus puckers over your finger, move to a straight on position and slowly press forward. The receiver controls the speed and depth of the penetration, so be sure to respond to any verbal or physical signs to stop.
9. As your finger penetrates in to the first knuckle, make sure to check-in with your partner. Ask them how it feels?
10. Remind your partner to breathe slowly while inhaling and contract the anal muscle around the finger then exhale.
11. If all is good, press gently into the walls of the anus as you rotate your finger clockwise and then anticlockwise in rhythmic motions.
12. Once you’ve gone all the way around stretching the opening with your fingertip, push inside the cavity further and penetrate with in and out motions as if having intercourse. Be certain to continue communicating with your partner during anal play and afterwards to find out if they want to do it again.

For some people, anal massage can lead to orgasm, while for others they need more intense anal pleasure with a penis, sex toy or even a fist.

It’s important to know anal sex puts lovers at a high risk for HIV infection and other sexually transmitted diseases. That’s why it is recommended that you use an FDA- approved condom.

Also, be sure to use a separate condom for vaginal intercourse to protect against the spread of bacteria to the vagina. Never insert anything—finger, penis or toy—directly into the vagina from the anus without first thoroughly cleansing it.

The bottom (excuse the pun) line is to talk about anal sex before you do it. Anytime, anyplace when you and your partner are relaxed is the right time. No matter what your sexual orientation, communication is key before anal sex to make sure your partner is comfortable with the idea and that you are both prepared.

For more step-by-step details on Anal Sex, check out the online certified course that will make you an Anal Sexpert:  http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=45

Love Contract

Create your own Love Contract under your own terms so that you are both aware of your boundaries and your deal-breakers.

Purpose: For any situation in which people are in a relationship, dating, living together or married; to create and agree upon a mutual understanding of relationship boundaries.

Why it works: Because both parties are able to express and negotiate their personal needs in a written format and hold each other accountable.

How to facilitate it:

1.     Use this document or draw up your own definition of a relationship agreement using simple and specific guidelines. Create this together so that neither one feels coerced by the other.

2.    Include and list as many categories as you both need and want.

For example: social, relationship, sexual, spiritual, family, financial, health, physical, vacation, career, parenting, hobbies, etc.

3.    After all of the categories have been filled in by both parties, read and accepted without any uncertainty, both of you should sign and date it.

What are the benefits?

It is a commitment that you have created together that has nothing to do with the government or church. It can be used as an alternative to a prenuptial agreement or marriage certificate, and for all sexual orientations to help avoid conflict during the relationship. However, should the relationship breakdown, it can be used to determine property ownership, debt obligations, support obligations, etc. You can use the Mutual Love Agreement below or create your own contract with your partner.

Mutual Love Agreement™

By: ___________________________________________________

And

By:

______________________________________________________

The party of the first part (herein referred to as ‘________________________________’) being of sound mind agrees to the following with the party of the second part “________________________________”

FULL DISCLOSURE: (Sample: At the commencement of the Mutual Love Agreement each party agrees to fully disclose any current resentments, health issues, financial obligations, unusual sex practices or relationship concerns.)

DEFINITION OF RELATIONSHIP: (Sample: Both parties mutually agree to use the following terminology in describing their relationship: committed, cohabiting, open, monogamous, polyamorous, marriage, etc.,)

GOALS FOR OUR RELATIONSHIP: (Sample: Total honesty, trust, respect, communicative, companionship, variety of partners, marriage and/or children, etc.,)

SOCIAL: (Sample: One night a week is designated to each party to go out separately with friends, business colleagues or family. Dinner parties to be prepared by both parties. Dining out at least two (2) times a week. One two (2) week vacation per year, plus 3 weekend vacations per year.

FINANCIAL: (Sample: Parties will share a joint bank account plus maintain their own individual bank accounts. They will deposit their salary checks into the joint account and pay for living expenses including, but not limited to: rent, mortgage, groceries, household items, utility bills, dining and/or vacations. Each party will keep the money they have accumulated before this agreement in their separate individual bank accounts. There will be no financial reimbursement from or to either party if this agreement is terminated.)

SEXUAL: (Sample: Parties will kiss passionately every day, engage in sexual intercourse at least three (3) times a week, mutual oral sex at least four (4) times a week, anal sex at least one (1) time a month. Give each other an erotic massage one (1) time a week. Watch porn only on weekends, but no more than two movies per weekend, taking turns to choose the movies. Mutual masturbation at least one (1) time on weekends. Unilateral masturbation, anytime, threesome’s only on Birthdays.

BOUNDARIES: (Sample: No hitting, no spitting, no breaking things, no cheating, no bringing up old lovers, no shouting, and no offensive name calling, etc.,)

SPIRITUAL: (Sample: Each party respects the others spiritual beliefs and does not attempt to persuade the other to change their faith.)

PARENTING: (Sample: When and if the parties do have children, they will be raised Christian, Jewish, Buddhist or with no particular religion, but educated about all of them. Discipline will be mutually administered by both parties. The child or children will have both their mother and father’s last name hyphenated with the mother’s name first.)

GROUNDS FOR TERMINATION: (Sample: Any of the following will be grounds for immediate termination and final dissolution of said relationship: Physical violence, cheating with a man or woman and/or withholding sex for more than a month (unless for a medical reason.)

Agreed & Accepted,

By: __________________________ Date: _________________

And

By: _________________________ Date: __________________

Disclaimer:

You may want to check with your attorney before entering into any binding agreement. It may not be admissible in a court of law unless it is approved by an attorney and notarized.

Sexual Magnetism

Do you have the secret ingredient that attracts strangers dates or long time lovers to you? If you do, then it might be more than just your good looks and great personality. Your sexual magnetism could well be the way you smell, otherwise known as your pheromones.

Pheromones are nature’s way of sending sex signals, secreted in human sweat, especially where we have hair follicles on our scalp, under our arms and around the genitals. Our personal pheromones are the chemistry referred to as “animal attraction” or “sexual chemistry.”

In the Old West, cowboys would place their scarves between their legs and then wear the sweaty, musky aroma scarf around their neck to attract women.

We send subconscious signals through our pheromones, which travel in the air to the opposite sex’s nasal cavity through the vomeronasal organ (VNO). These pheromones affect our biological processes by heightening sexual desire.

The national TV show 20/20 aired a segment on this controversial topic and did experiments with two sets of identical twins with one twin from each set applying pheromones to their neck and wrists before going out to a speed-dating club. By the end of the night, the twins wearing the pheromones got 10 out of 10 phone numbers they wanted from prospective dates with the opposite sex. The other twins weren’t so popular or lucky. Then the show demonstrated that pheromones can work just as well for the older generation and asked two single women in their forties to adorn themselves with pheromones every day. By the end of the experiment, both women were convinced of the power of pheromones, confessing that they had been more successful in attracting men than before they used pheromones.

So you be the judge as to whether you need to buy some artificial pheromones to intensify your sexual magnetism or if your own pheromones are powerful enough.