Sex in the Bathroom

Make your bathroom into a pleasure palace.  The bathroom can become the best place for a steamy, sudsy, sexy soiree with your lover before sex, after sex, or anytime at all. Below are a dozen ideas to rev up your love life and make your bathroom a more sexy environment for playful sexiness.

1. One of the first things you do in the bathroom is to look in the mirror.  It’s likely that your lover does the same.  If you’re a woman, take your favorite colored lipstick and write something sexy on the looking glass for your lover to find.  If you’re a man, use your shaving cream to write your naughty message. If cleaning the mirror is too tiresome, simply tape an erotic note to the mirror. Hide a second one in the medicine cabinet.  Write a compliment or something X-rated and make your lover’s blood pressure rise.  Leave a naughty photo of yourself in a strategic spot.  It’s a wonderful surprise and can lead to some hot and heavy bathroom sex.

2. When together in the bathroom, your hairbrush has more uses than untangling your hair. Gently tap the flat side of the brush against the bottom of your lover’s  feet.  Turn the brush over and use the bristles to tickle and stimulate them.  Don’t stop there.  A soft brush can be used to stroke, soothe and relax many other parts of your lover’s body.  Tap the brush on aching shoulders, back and buttocks.  Tease the chest, breasts and insides of the thighs with the bristles.  Use your imagination and the responses of your partner to guide you to other pleasurable hot spots.

3. How about a sensual sponge bath?  Most people think of a sponge bath only when they’re bedridden.  This is one of the most erotic ways to explore your lover’s body.  It’s also very hygienic.  Be creative with scented soaps such as lavender, almond or sandalwood.  Use perfumed oils to increase your lover’s olfactory pleasure.  Add a little lemon, orange or lime juice for a natural citrus aroma.

4. Hand lotion, body lotion, baby oil, suntan oil and even cooking oil are all slippery and sensual, making for a lusty full body or partial body massage.  While massage professionals use oils, lotions are less messy and feel just as good.  Always warm the lotion or oil in your hands first, before applying them to your lover’s body.  Start with gentle, fingertip movements, lightly skimming over your lover’s body.  Tease and thrill your partner by not staying in one place for too long.  As you gradually increase the pressure of your gentle caresses, watch your lover turn into putty in your hands.. For those people who complain that oil is too greasy and lotion too sticky, there’s always powder.  Any kind of powder will do for dusting your lover’s body: face powder, talcum powder or baby powder.  Use a powder puff, a make-up brush or your own hands to massage the powder into your lover’s chest, butt and feet, particularly between the toes.

5. Use your hair dryer to blow-dry your lover after a shower or bath.  Start from the bottom and work your way up.  If you linger at mid-section, we’ll understand, otherwise continue to the top and finish by drying and styling your lover’s hair.

6. Shaving is a boring task, so make it more enjoyable by shaving your lover’s face, legs, armpits or anything else you can make “baby bottom” smooth.   A certain amount of trust and a steady hand is required for this chore.

7. A bubble bath is romantic and relaxing. A little shampoo or dish washing liquid will do the trick just as well as expensive bath bubbles.  Squeeze in a little lemon or lime for that extra tingle.  For added ambiance, place a few lit candles around the tub.  Turn the lights down low and blow bubbles of passion together.

8. Get up a little earlier and take a shower with your lover in the morning.  Lather each other up and slide your bodies together like human washcloths.  Save soap and water and end up making love before you go to work.  What a way to start the day!

9. Fill the bathtub with two inches of hot water.   Submerge bath towels until totally soaked.  Have your lover lie in the tub, covering the lucky cupcake completely with the hot, wet towels.  Dim the lights, turn on your favorite romantic music and recite a sexy little story, then tell your lover to end the story with a happy ending.

10. Using a new soft-bristle toothbrush, lightly stroke your lover’s body, teasing all those little nooks and crannies.  Next time your dentist gives you a complimentary toothbrush, save it for pleasurable sexual activity. Add lube to intensify the sensations.

11. With his or her consent, mummify your lover with toilet paper for a soft touch that binds.  Once immobilized, use your imagination and other household items to tantalize your partner into a submissive frenzy.

12. Have sex on the edge of the sink, lie down in the bathtub, or throw some fluffy towels on the floor.  Don’t forget to use the mirrors for that extra erotic touch.

Orgasm Survey Findings

The Loveology University Original Orgasm Internet Survey analyzes Orgasm in America, Current Beliefs and Practices designed by Leanna Wolfe, Ph.D., and Dr. Ava Cadell, for www.LoveologyUniversity.com.  The survey featured 27 questions which included basic demographics such as gender, age, sexual orientation and marital status followed by others that targeted respondents’ sexual practices and beliefs regarding orgasm.

Based on a 27-question Internet survey of 1,053 men and women, gender, age and cultural differences figure strongly in performance, incidence of multiple orgasm, faking of orgasm, simultaneous orgasm via penile vaginal intercourse and means by which orgasm can be achieved and enhanced.  Female respondents in their middle years (30-35) were the most likely to fake orgasm with their partners and had the lowest levels of gender alignment in reporting the incidence of simultaneous orgasm.  Our respondents overwhelmingly believe there is a difference between clitoral and vaginal orgasms (64.3% male and 73% female) while our oldest respondents (36-69) were the least likely to believe that it’s possible for females to reach orgasm without direct clitoral stimulation (76.1% male and 77.2% female).  Orgasmic enhancements were highly gender-based except for those who practice tantric sex (16.4% male and 17.4% female).  High gender differentiations were seen with use of stop-start techniques (70.6% of males vs. 40.3% of females) and activation of the pubococcygeus muscle (25.6% males vs. 60.2% females).  Being a voluntary survey that attracted sexual explorers there were impressively high rates of female ejaculation (46.4%) and non-ejaculatory male orgasm (44.8%).  Nearly half (46%) agreed that sex could be satisfying without orgasm with another 43.7% claiming “it depends” on things like emotional connection, love and rewarding touch.

Our findings reveal a wide range of beliefs and practices regarding what women require to achieve orgasm, the likelihood for couples to achieve simultaneous through penile vaginal intercourse and what techniques are useful for orgasm enhancement.  Regarding female orgasm, we’re left with two schools of thought.  One is that exercising the pubococcygeus muscle through kegel exercises and/or use of a pelvic floor toner can enable a woman to orgasm through penile vaginal intercourse while the other is that a majority of women require direct clitoral stimulation (apart from or in conjunction with penile vaginal intercourse) in order to achieve orgasm.  Ultimately, both of these approaches to female erotic fulfillment require cultural learning via sex education and facility in partner communication.   With increased availability of sex information via the Internet and the ease in which the current culture of Hooking Up enables experience with a variety of partners, young people know more about sexual functioning than previous American generations.

Respondents in their early 30s reported the lowest levels of communication with their partners re: the rates in which females fake orgasm and males believe a simultaneous orgasm has occurred.  This cohort is most likely to be consumed with family building – either finding a mate to start a family, generating or maintaining a positive connection with such a mate, or the often selfless job of parenting.  Especially for parents of babies and young children, sleep may be far more desired than a simultaneous splashy orgasm.

Respondents aligned with erotic subcultures which focus on tantric practices, female ejaculation and male non-ejaculatory orgasm, challenge our surveys general findings that the female orgasm requires direct clitoral stimulation and that orgasm is largely a physical experience.  Ultimately, this raises the question of what kind of sex education should we be offering our youth.  Do we focus on breathing techniques and eye gazing (as tantric practitioners do) or do we make sure that every girl has access to a pleasing vibrator?  Do we encourage beliefs that sex without orgasm is satisfying and that it takes females longer to reach orgasm than males or do we create education campaigns to encourage the use of (female) pelvic toners?

While much of the focus on this survey has been on the challenges of aligning the female sexual response with that of males, an area for fruitful sex education would be to educate males how to gain more sensation and fulfillment from their orgasms.  With a quarter of our male respondents reporting that the duration of their orgasms was between two and five seconds, it’s unlikely they have access to a set of skills that might enable greater levels of fulfillment and ultimately deeper bonding with their partners. 

Respondent Comments

If more people cared as much about orgasms as they do about politics ours would be a more peaceful world. Female, 55

No other experience in life can match the ecstasy of really good sex with the woman I love. It doesn’t happen often, but when it does…wow! Male, 61

For most of my life the only way I could orgasm was with a vibrator. After a breakup of a 22-year relationship, I wanted to learn to come without a vibrator. Through a combination of tantra with Margo Anand, Patti Taylor, Jan Robinson, Carla Tara, The Welcomed Consensus videos and teaching myself I learned to have energy orgasms, hour long orgasms, orgasms without touch, O from intercourse, O while lying next to a lover or being woken from sleep cumming and from doing oral sex on a man.  Female, 57

The more people realize that an orgasm is a very personal experience … the less people feel compelled to compare or judge … the more we can all open to the natural energetic “pump” of living in blissful union with all of life in all its symphonic expressions. Male, 52

Sex is a basic need, like food and shelter. I talk to my three sons that they need to be having good sex, even if it’s just masturbating.  All men laugh at this, because they say boys already know this, but I want to make sure that they didn’t have any guilt attached to masturbating. Female, 43

I believe for women to experience the best sex possible, the man must go round after round, so that the woman has the best chances of obtaining orgasm after orgasm, since each round will continue to grow longer & longer in time, with non-stop penetration a woman’s chance of actually experiencing numerous orgasms, increases substantially! Male, 58

I have only had an orgasm four times in my whole life; I’m trying to find out ways to be able to have more. Female, 33

I can have up to 25 orgasms in 1 hour. Female, 36

The best Os occur when you prep yourself mentally over a period of time. The anticipation generates the intensity. Mine start in my belly button area. As I ejaculate I envision a piston pressing down as I feel it flow through my stomach area through past my insides and prostate and through my vas deferens and out. Male, 58

I experience what I call an orgasmic wave, which seems to be multiple orgasms that go on and on – but which sometimes leaves me wondering whether I ever really came, since it sometimes doesn’t come to a definite conclusion (as if I came, but immediately started back up again). Female, 60

I think my orgasms have become more intense and longer lasting, but not as easy to achieve, as I have gotten older.  Male, 60

I’m over 60 and having more satisfying sex on a regular basis than I’ve ever had in my life… including the ‘free love’ hippie days when I was in my 20’s! Female, 65

Sex is pleasure, with or without orgasm.  Male, 58

Over time, I’ve changed so that I’m much more vaginally orgasmic, but these tend to be very hard to define, since it’s not always a simple clear single orgasm. About six years ago I began to have ejaculatory orgasms. I’ve also experienced half- hour to hour-long orgasms or collections of orgasms, depending on how you think about it. It’s hard to pin down a “typical” orgasm length for me, as they can range anywhere from a few seconds to a couple of minutes on a regular basis, with not-uncommon longer sessions if I have the time.  Female, 46

Please your Husband by Becoming his Mistress

  Many men expect their wives to be their lover, best friend, nurturer, confidant, lifelong partner, playmate, social director, family organizer, shopper, domestic goddess, soul mate and sexpot in the sack. In other words, they want their woman to be more of a mistress and less of of wife. So, here are seven ways that you can make this demanding fantasy into a reality and keep your relationship fulfilling for both of you. As with all of these steps, sexiness comes from within:

1. Look good for him and for yourself.  Just knowing that your man is more physically aroused should give you plenty of tools to turn him on. You can become his fantasy woman by surprising him at the door wearing a skirt or dress so that he can fantasize about what kind of panties you may have on, if any.  Be sure to compliment your outfit with a pair of high-heels to enhance his sense of sight and further eroticize his imagination. Alternatively, you can wear a sexy little apron with nothing underneath when serving him dinner or breakfast in bed. Getting dressed up is also a great way for a woman to get into a juicy frame of mind after a rough day at work or exhausting time with the children.

2. Flirt with your husband. Start by giving him a physical compliment daily and touch him when he least expects it. Just before he leaves for work, squeeze his butt playfully or give him a heart-to-heart hug as soon as he comes home. Smile and lock eyes often to release all of those feel-good endorphins that will make you both feel the pleasure of being in each others presence. Flirting is the bedrock of romance and it will keep the chemistry in your long-term relationship as long as you make it part of your marriage ritual in and out of the bedroom.

3. Make dates spontaneous. Take him out for a seductive date for breakfast, lunch, dinner or anytime you can spend quality time together. Make it memorable by recreating some of the dates you went on before you got married. Sometimes it takes some planning to make the best spontaneous dates work, so prepare a picnic and surprise him by taking him to the beach or a park for a romantic rendezvous.  Commit to taking trips together, even if they are quickie getaways as it can be the glue that takes the relationship to a higher level of intimacy.

4. Be adventurous. Make the first move to seduce your man by pushing him up against a wall and making out or pushing him down on the bed, straddling and kissing him passionately. Try doing something new together so that you get out of your comfort zone and learn new exciting skills such as Power Play by reading the book, 50 Shades of Grey to each other. Go to a Tantric Sex or Kundalini Yoga class and discover the benefits of spiritual sexuality. Learn to Tango together and create sexual anticipation on the dance floor or take an online course on Aphrodisiacs at www.LoveologyUniversity.com and then cook a menu of love foods together.

5. Don’t ambush him with complaints. Men want their wives to be happy, so the last thing they want to hear about after work is complaints about all the things that went wrong in your home. Greet him with affection, give him some space and let him feel like a King in his domain before you state your list of complaints. If he can’t fix the problem, it will just make him feel helpless and even emasculating, so focus on communicating the positive things that happened in your day and ask him to share his best moments from his day. Don’t keep pent up problems to yourself either, but do share them with friends, family and your husband when the time is right so that they don’t feel like they were ambushed. Be sure to make time for your girlfriends because your guy cannot give you the same emotional connection and he probably doesn’t want to hear about your shopping spree or even your best friend’s new baby.

6. Play into his fantasies. Sharing fantasies has a way of increasing intimacy and it can add creativity to your sex routine. By sharing with someone you trust you can let go of the guilt and shame surrounding your fantasies. And you’re cuing your partner into what is most pleasing to you. Sexual fantasies for men are generally more sexually explicit than women’s. More physically arousing, about objects of desire, more likely to specify sexual acts, more visual in content and more likely to contain details about physical appearance. Encourage him to share his wildest fantasies with you, but do not be judgmental. Talk about which fantasies you both want to turn into reality and which ones should remain as fantasies.

7. Ignite your passion to fuel his fire. When you please yourself, you automatically please your partner because he does not want to work at giving you pleasure and quite frankly it’s not his job anyway. So, identify what gives you the most pleasure by tapping into your five senses. Then take the time to look in the mirror and tell yourself how beautiful you look. You get extra bonus points if you can do this naked. Now you are ready to make passionate love to yourself and treat yourself as if you are madly in love with you. Masturbation is the epitome of self-love and exploration of what makes you feel best. It can help you to explore your sexual fantasies, is a precious gift of self-acceptance and key to living a healthy sexual life. Let your partner watch and it will send him over the moon!

Crossing Boundaries

Boundaries are acts and activities that establish our comfort zones. Having boundaries gives us self-value and respect. Communicating boundaries to your partner lets them know your limitations and deal breakers. It can be a powerful form of communication between couples that can result in a deeper level of intimacy. Maintaining boundaries contributes to feeling safe and grounded. Boundaries can be defined by gender, sexual orientation and proclivities. Boundaries can also change depending on context, age and opportunities.

So identify your own boundaries and then share them with your partner before they become violated. After all, you can’t blame someone for crossing a boundary that they didn’t know existed.

I tell my clients to create a “Boundary Box” to be aware of and share physical, emotional and sexual boundaries with their partner.

Here’s how:

Write down all of your boundaries on separate pieces of paper or index cards and fill a box with them.  Below are some examples of physical, emotional and sexual boundaries.

Physical boundaries: I have the right to determine when, where, how, and who is going to touch me. I have the right to determine how close someone is going to stand next to me.

• Don’t touch my butt in public
• I won’t hug people I don’t know
• Don’t make out with me in the movies
• Brush your teeth before you kiss me in the morning
• I will leave you if you raise your hand to me
• I won’t kiss people I just met, even on the cheek
• I won’t dance with anyone I don’t intend to have sex with

Emotional boundaries: What I think or feel or do or don’t do is more about me than it is about you. Conversely, what you think and feel or do or don’t do is more about you than it is about me.

• Don’t talk about our sex life in public
• Don’t compare me to other lovers
• Don’t talk about past relationships
• Don’t kiss strangers hello or goodbye
• Don’t flirt with other people
• Introduce me when we see someone I don’t know
• I’ll leave you if I find out you’ve been unfaithful

Sexual boundaries: I have the right to determine with whom, where, when and how I am going to be sexual with someone

• No anal sex
• I won’t swallow (semen from ejaculation)
• I don’t want to kiss you after you’ve given me oral sex
• I don’t want to have a threesome or group sex
• Don’t go right for my breasts or between my legs
• I won’t have sex with you when you are watching porn
• I won’t wait until you have your orgasm to have mine

Why it works: Because if you don’t know what your boundaries are, then you cannot express them or blame your partner for overstepping them.

Caution: Ignored boundaries can be very damaging and you should seek professional help from a sex therapist, counselor or sexologist.

Check out this a link to an original online survey on sexual boundaries with over 1000 participants who explored the social and emotional context for the engagement of sexual boundaries. Particular focus was directed to the intersection between low sexual desire and appetite for sexual novelty.

https://www.loveologyuniversity.com/LUPages/surveys.aspx

Pheromone Power

Have you ever been drawn to someone whose smell was intoxicating and you just couldn’t stop thinking about them? That’s called, chemical attraction and is caused by our natural pheromones that are secreted from our glands, which send signals to trigger specific mating responses in our brain. They are sensed by an organ in the nasal passage known as VMO, then send messages to the brain to interpret signals that can include fertility, confidence, sexual attraction, trustworthiness and even success or power. Consequently, pheromones can produce overwhelming attraction, even when the physical attributes are lacking.

Our natural gender specific pheromones include Androstenone associated with alpha male sexual tension, Androstenedione, a chemical found in sweat, Androstenol, the female pheromone associated with romantic interest and Copulines, the female pheromone released during ovulation that has been shown to increase male testosterone.

Pheromones are emitted from our sweat glands, pulse points and anywhere that we have hair, so you can release attraction-boosting signals by going commando, not showering right after exercising and by not wearing deodorant or fragrances that will mask your natural scent. I’m not suggesting that you don’t maintain good hygiene, but bathing with warm water while cutting down on soap will wash off fewer of your body’s pheromones. You can also enhance your pheromones by eating foods high in zinc such as oysters and other fresh seafood aphrodisiacs known to increase testosterone in men and women.

Independent studies have been conducted at leading universities worldwide, such as Stanford University, the University of California at Berkeley, the University of Chicago and the Karolinska Institute, one of Sweden’s oldest medical schools have shown that pheromones do have a profound effect on human behavior.

Orgasm Workouts

During workouts some women have reported having exercise-induced orgasms. And they were not doing vagina aerobics to strengthen their pelvic muscles. Butt builder exercises like squats and lunges caused an increase in tension in their lower extremities that lead to the release of orgasms. Even more surprising were Coregasms from working out the abs while doing crunches and hanging leg raises. More predictable were women who admitted they felt aroused when they rolled on top of  a large exercise ball. So with these reports, it’s no wonder that researchers  Debra Herbenick and Dennis Fortenberry decided to conduct an anonymous survey to find out how many women had experienced orgasm, and what types of exercise were likely to elicit such a response. Of the 530 participants surveyed, 124 women did in fact experience exercise-induced orgasm and 246 reported exercise-induced sexual pleasure from an array of physical exercises that included using the “Captain’s Chair” – an ab strengthener, doing chin-ups, climbing poles, biking and even weight lifting. Less likely activities to result in orgasm on the survey were swimming, running and tennis.

Becoming aware that women can orgasm by exercising is a good enough reason to make working out a regular ritual. Taking care of your body inside and out can increase confidence, release feel-good endorphins and improve overall mental, physical, emotional and sexual health. If you don’t have a gym membership, you can still get on the orgasm workout bandwagon by doing your crunches at home. Adding some Kegel exercises to your fitness regiment is my advice to trigger those nerve impulses in the pelvic area and feel orgasmic sensations. Kegels are exercise techniques for strengthening these muscles to increase blood flow, tighten the vagina, improve bladder control,  increase orgasmic ability and even enable female ejaculation during orgasm. Empower your sexuality by exercising your sexual support muscles, which I like to refer to as vagina aerobics that you can do anytime, anywhere and nobody will know why you look so happy!

The survey report on exercise-induced orgasms is published in a special issue of Sexual and Relationship Therapy, a leading peer-reviewed journal in the area of sex therapy and sexual health. Co-author is J. Dennis Fortenberry, M.D., professor at the IU School of Medicine and Center for Sexual Health Promotion affiliate.

Vacation Romances

Vacation romances are exciting because they can happen so fast that you go from flirting to fellatio, to falling in love in just a few days. But beware, as most vacation romances don’t last, so don’t profess your love prematurely to someone you just met.

The change of atmosphere adds to the romantic fairy tale, far away from the patterns of daily responsibilities. If your vacation is at a romantic destination with the sounds of waves crashing on the beach, warm tropical weather and you feel relaxed, happy and horny there’s a good chance you will be easily tempted to hook up with the first good prospect you meet. You can expect the highs to be very fulfilling, but the lows could come crashing down once you wake up sober or find yourself with an STD from having unprotected sex.

You can still have a great time on vacation, let loose and explore romantic opportunities, but set some boundaries for yourself so that you have no regrets. For example, go to first base on the first date, second base on the second date, third base on third date and a home run with protection on the fourth date. Or you can wait to make love until after the vacation to see if you still have the same chemistry. You’ll soon find out if the other person is genuinely interested in getting to know you or if he or she just wants to get laid. If they don’t ask you about your life, get uncomfortable talking about themselves or avoid sharing information about their family, friends and work, you may just want to remain platonic buddies.

Vacation romances can lead to falling in love and a lasting relationship with someone special if you are lucky, but be aware of the possible pitfalls. Enjoy your vacation and treat yourself as if you are madly in love with you, then you can’t get hurt.

Threesomes and New Relationship Energy

Have you ever thought about what it would be like to add another person to your relationship? Not just for sex, but to fill in a void and share your love to build an even stronger relationship. No couple can give each other everything they need for a mentally, emotionally, physically and sexually satisfying relationship. So, another alternative that some couples are exploring is to add a new person who can communicate, who will listen, be willing to compromise and have a sexual relationship with them. This is called New Relationship Energy (NRE) and is appealing to more couples who want to stay together, but frustrated by the restriction of monogamy.

If you want to be part of this movement, be sure to do your homework by educating yourself on different kinds of open relationships and discuss your intentions with your partner so that you are both on the same page. You want to address the pros and the cons of bringing in a new person, so making a list of the benefits and the consequences is a great way to begin.

Benefits of New Relationship Energy (NRE) may include:

1. Getting additional attention
2. Exploring bisexuality
3. Expanding horizons
4. Avoiding cheating
5. Satisfying a natural curiosity
6. Watching someone pleasure your partner
7. Learning to love in new ways
8. Diffusing dependency
9. Sharing relationship obligations
10. Learning new skills

The consequences of New Relationship Energy (NRE) may include:

1. Being judged by outsiders
2. Renegotiating the relationship
3. Feeling jealous
4. Being competitive
5. Sexual hang-ups
6. Unconventional lifestyle
7. Lack of acceptance
8. Fear of abandonment
9. Too much conflict
10. Lack of commitment

If you are interested in learning more about open relationships, check out this course on Polyamory.

• If You Want to Love More than One Person at the Same Time
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When are you Ready to have Sex?

  If you are thinking about having sex with someone, but not sure you’re ready, read these 10 signs before you give in to pressure. Knowing when you are ready for sex is a personal decision and a choice that you should make because you want to have sex.

You should be aware that the age of sexual consent differs around the world, so be sure to find out exactly what age is legal before you do anything you might regret. In the United States the age of consent ranges between 16 and 21. In the United Kingdom it’s 16 and it’s the same in India, but in Spain, the age of consent is only 13.  Check out the age of consent  to discover the legal age in your neck of the woods.

So, when do you know that you are ready to have sex? Here are my top 10 signs that you are ready to have sex:

1. When you know the reason why you want to have sex

2. When you understand your body

3. When you can control your emotions

4. When you can talk about sex before having sex

5. When you can talk about your feelings before and after having sex

6. When you know the other person’s sexual history

7. When you have FDA approved condoms on hand

8. When you know you won’t have any regret after having sex

9. When you know the difference between love, intimacy and sex

10. When having sex is a joint consensual agreement between adults.

Sex is a choice, which means that you can say, “NO”, “Not Now”, “Later” or “Yes”,  but when in doubt, do not have sex until you feel confident about the above 10 signs that you are ready, willing and able to have sex.

Secrets to Empowerment

AWAKEN YOUR EMPOWERMENT SO IT WILL BE AT YOUR FINGERTIPS WHEN YOU MOST WANT AND NEED IT WITH THESE 3 SECRETS.

SECRET #1 ROMANCE YOURSELF. TREAT YOURSELF AS IF YOU ARE MADLY IN LOVE WITH YOU…EVERY DAY!

BEGIN BY IDENTIFYING WHAT MAKES YOU LOVABLE & GIVE YOURSELF ALL THE COMPLIMENTS YOU DESERVE.SO WHAT COMPLIMENT IS MOST MEANINGFULL TO YOU? IS IT A PHYSICAL, MENTAL, APPRECIATIVE OR SEXUAL COMPLIMENT? ALL OF THEM MAKE US FEEL GOOD, SO PRACTICE GIVING YOURSELF AT LEAST ONE OF EACH EVERY SINGLE DAY. TELL YOURSELF, “I’M HOT, SMART, KIND AND A GREAT LOVER.”

CELEBRATE YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS BIG AND SMALL BY REWARDING YOURSELF REGULARLY. WHAT DOES YOUR REWARD LOOK LIKE? IS IT LUNCH WITH A FRIEND, BUYING NEW CLOTHES, TAKING A NAP, WATCHING A MOVIE OR GIVING YOURSELF AN ORGASM?

TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR OWN PLEASURE; DON’T WAIT FOR SOMEONE TO GIVE IT TO YOU. IF YOU WANT TO FEEL SENSUAL, DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO GET INTO A JUICY FRAME OF MIND. AWAKEN YOUR SENSES BY HEIGHTENING THEM WITH EROTIC TURN ONS, SUCH AS SCENTED CANDLES, WARM BATH, ROMANTIC MUSIC, A GLASS OF WINE OR SOME DELICIOUS DESERT.

ROMANCING YOURSELF ALSO MEANS FORGIVING YOURSELF, STOPPING NEGATIVE SELF-TALK AND FACING YOUR BIGGEST FEARS WITH UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.

SECRET #2 POSITIVE PEAK MEMORIES. TAP INTO YOUR MOST POSITIVE PEAK MEMORIES TO EXPERIENCE PLEASURE ANYTIME, ANY PLACE.

Close your eyes and recall a moment when you felt on top of the world. HOW ABOUT A BIRTHDAY CELEBRATION YOU HAD, A WEDDING, A BIRTH, A GRADUATION, GETTING A RAISE, A NEW CLIENT, OR A GREAT DATE.

This can have powerful results in reprogramming the subconscious mind and flooding your body with feel good endorphins, as your brain doesn’t know the difference between whether you are thinking or experiencing your positive peak moments.

Start saying YES to more positive peak moments and NO to people making demands on your valuable time, as it’s the most precious gift to give to yourself.

SECRET #3 PERCEPTION RECOGNITION. GET OTHERS TO PERCEIVE YOU THROUGH YOUR EYES. SO ASK YOURSELF, “HOW DO I WANT TO BE PERCEIVED BY MY PARTNER, MY FRIENDS, MY ASSOCIATES, EVEN MY COMPETITORS?

THINK OF 3 ADJECTIVES TO DESCRIBE HOW YOU WANT TO BE PERCEIVED. DO YOU WANT TO BE PERCEIVED AS PASSIONATE? POWERFUL? PLAYFUL? SMART? CREATIVE? SEDUCTIVE? FUNNY? POSITIVE? STRONG? OR OTHER?

YOU CAN IMPACT OTHERS TO PERCEIVE YOU THROUGH YOUR BODY LANGUAGE, YOUR FACIAL EXPRESSIONS, THE SOUND AND PROJECTION OF YOUR VOICE AND YOUR ACTIONS.

FACIAL EXPRESSIONS ARE UNIVERSAL AS EMOTIONS FOR HAPPINESS, SADNESS, ANGER, SURPRISE & FEAR.

BODY MOVEMENTS & POSTURE COMMUNICATES CONFIDENCE, INSECURITY, SEXINESS, INHIBITIONS, SELF-LOVE AND SELF-DOUBT.

GESTURES ARE EXPRESSIONS OF OUR EMOTIONS, SO BEWARE OF HOW YOU USE YOUR HANDS.

EYE CONTACT CAN COMMUNICATE INTEREST, ATTRACTION, SURPRISE, FEAR AND LOVE.

THE PROJECTION OF YOUR VOICE IS NOT JUST WHAT YOU SAY, BUT HOW YOU SAY IT WHICH CAN CONVEY UNDERSTANDING AND APPROVAL.

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