Archive | November 2010
November 28, 2010  

My Gratitude List

I am so thankful for all that I have in my life that I thought this would be a perfect time to share my gratitude list as Thanksgiving weekend is coming to an end. I never imagined my life could be this perfect in my wildest dreams, so I am filled with gratitude for the obstacles that I had to overcome and the rocky road that lead me to my happiness and success.

I am so grateful to my husband Peter who gives me the love that I need and the support to follow my passions.

I am grateful for being in good health, despite occasional pain which I have learned to view as a gift. This has taught me to help others deal and manage their pain.

I am grateful to the people who hire me for my expertise and I will always give them more than they expect. Thank you Greg at Evolved and Sol at System JO.

I am grateful to organizations like the YPO and EO who book me as their Keynote Speaker, as I’m inspired by their entrepreneurial spirit and am always ready, willing and able to motivate them to make love a priority in their lives.

I am grateful to my Step-Son Chance who keeps my company organized and for all of my wonderful assistants who I have mentored, whom I also consider as family.

I am grateful to my students from all of the world who want to learn about love, relationships, romance, intimacy and sex by enrolling in www.LoveologyUniversity.com where I can share my 20 years of knowledge.

I am grateful to the producers who give me a platform on their TV shows to reach the masses with my message of healthy love, intimacy and sex. Look for me on The Doctors before Xmas and on HBO’s The Cat House next year.

I am grateful for my loyal friends Christine, Pamela, Christina, Paul, Gurutej and Hernando who convince me to take a break from work to meet for lunch or Happy Hour drinks.

I am grateful to be living and loving my life, sharing it with you and hoping that I can impact your life in a positive way.

November 23, 2010  

Please Your Inner Lover

Everyone wants to enjoy a healthy, loving and exciting love and sex life, but sometimes the craving to experience and enjoy it can get in the way of actually getting it. Whether your lack of sexuality has resulted in loss of sexual desire, sexual inhibitions or lack of orgasm, the first step is to stop blaming yourself. If you constantly criticize yourself, then you create unnecessary stress which makes it impossible for you to enjoy or perform. The moment you stop worrying about how you look, what you are or are not doing sexually, is when you will set yourself free, your mind and body will be free to enjoy the most pleasurable sexual experience with your lover without any limits.

First I’m here to tell you that sex with someone you love is the best prescription for good health. It keeps you young, keeps your sexual organs in good working order and sex makes you feel confident. Nothing else stimulates all the senses quite like sex.  It just puts a glow on you that no other activity does.

One of the most important psychological benefits of an active sex life is that is can reduce stress.  The sedative effect of sexual activity is conducive to fighting the effects of daily tension and stress. If you have trouble sleeping, the release of tension can then lead to a deeper, quicker sleep. And sex can be an effective anti-depressant because it releases feel-good neurotransmitters from the brain called Dopamine. The physical and emotional aspect of sex can work together in improving self-esteem. Orgasms can contribute to an overall sensation of well-being that lasts long after the final tremor.

Let’s face it, orgasm provides a break from reality. It is a natural high, satisfying us physically and emotionally. Orgasm gives us indisputable confidence and teaches us to accept who we are.  Orgasm can also be a spiritual experience, uniting two lovers into one.

Now that you know sex is good for your health, let’s focus on you. You are a beautiful woman who radiates love and you have wonderful qualities that you must love and appreciate in order for someone else to value them too. Think for a moment of all the wonderful qualities that you have to offer another person and identify each one in your mind right now as you continue to breathe easily, naturally and spontaneously. Now imagine that you are standing in front of a full length mirror looking at yourself from head to toe. Give yourself some physical and appreciative compliments as you look at yourself beginning with your face. Tell yourself something that you love about your face, then move down your torso and tell yourself something that you love about your upper body, midriff and lower body; don’t forget about your legs and feet. Really love every part of your body.

Now that you have given yourself many deserving compliments, the next step is to take a moment to be grateful for what you have.  So often we forget to think positively and take time to be thankful for that in our lives which is good. Think of three things that you are most grateful for right now as you enjoy this relaxing experience. Never put off appreciating what you have already achieved, big and small. Acknowledge your achievements over the last year and feel proud of yourself. Tap into that emotional place where you feel good about all that you have done.

You know what it feels like to be desirable, so I want you to look at yourself in your minds eye approvingly with desire and feel every muscle, every nerve, and every fiber of your being begin to tingle. Enjoy the warm sensation spreading throughout your body as it switches on to its desire mode. Allow yourself to surrender to this good and natural feeling of self-love and desire. Imagine now that there is a seed of desire that has been planted inside you and as it gets bigger, you let go of all your inhibitions, sexual guilt or shame and you surrender to the ultimate pleasure of your sexuality. You deserve to experience the ultimate pleasure humanly possible.

November 18, 2010  

Cheating Athletes

It looks like basketball player Tony Parker has now joined other testosterone fueled superstar athletes like Kobe Bryant, Tiger Woods and Alex Rodriguez who have an insatiable appetite for winning in sports and scoring in sex. Being married to beautiful sexy Actress Eva Longoria would be enough for most red-blooded men, but it seems that Tony allegedly cheated on her and that was a deal breaker. The divorce papers have been filed and the couple has thrown the towel in after just three years of marriage.

This relationship could survive if they both had the desire to save it by going to counseling. Sometimes infidelity can be a wake-up call that relationship boundaries need to be defined. After all, you can’t blame someone for violating boundaries if they didn’t know that they existed. Without mistakes, there can be no forgiveness and without forgiveness there can be no love, so it’s never too late to heal a hurt relationship.

While there are lots of perks to being married to an athlete, there are also pitfalls that include:

1.     No privacy, so you have to be on your best behavior all the time

2.     Lots of time apart, so there is more temptation to stray

3.     Less quality time together so there is less emotional bonding

4.     Lots of gossip can effect trust in the relationship

5.     Not enough intimacy and creative sex can lead to infidelity

Being married to a famous Actress or Actor has the same drawbacks and two famous married people can be a recipe for failure, just look at Courteney Cox and David Arquette who recently called it quits.

Watch me talk about Cheating Athletes on E! News Daily http://is.gd/hrNNT

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Part One – Cheating Defined.

Part Two – Men Who Cheat.

Part 3 – Women Who Cheat

Part 4 – Cheating Prevention & Relationship Solutions after Cheating.

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November 17, 2010  

Please Your Lover with Sex Toys

Sex toys cannot replace the fulfillment a lover can provide but they can have therapeutic value by rejuvenating a predictable relationship. They can add more variety, take the pressure off performance for the man, add orgasmic intensity by stimulating her clitoris, G-spot or anus, his penis, testicles or prostate as well as bring a new element of  fun to the relationship.

Before purchasing your first sex toys, it’s wise to consider your needs and/or sit down with your lover to discuss how you both feel about this idea. For example, “I feel like sex toys will add more variety to our sex life.”

Share your concerns and sexual boundaries and respect each others views.

Below are some Sex Toy Rules:

•When you get your new sex toys, start out slow, be gentle and ask your partner for feedback as well as offering your own comments.

•Your lover cannot read your mind, so let him/her know what feels good and if something doesn’t feel good, try something else.

•This is a great opportunity to use some erotic talk to describe your experience and it can improve your communication skills, which will lead to a deeper bond and more intimate relationship.

Some good ways to introduce sex toys in a relationship are:

·      Talking about them

·      Going to a sex shop together

·      Going online to look at a variety of sex toys

·      Choosing one for each of you such as a vibrator for her, a penis or prostate stimulator for him and a vibrating cock ring for both of you

·      Bring sex toys into fantasies such as a threesome with two guys and one girl; use a dildo or vibrator for double penetration

·      Take Loveology University’s Certified Sex Toy course together at http://www.LoveologyUniversity.com

Here are my top 10 favorites:

1. Evolved’s Silicone Bendable Rose has a pure silicone rosebud with a bendable stem that can hold in any position to give you bud-thrilling satisfaction. It’s discreet for parents, great for a beginner, but powerful enough to impress a sex toy connoisseur.

2. Evolved’s Waterproof Promise Finger Ring and Engagement Finger Ring are perfect for the sex toy novice. They are hypo-allergenic; multifunctional, vibrating, pulsating with five powerful function massagers.

3. The Boss Cock’s Pleasure Ring is a safe, stretchy waterproof, long-lasting, powerful cock-ring with a vibrating bullet designed to stimulate the penis, testicles and clitoris all at the same time.

4. The versatile waterproof FlutterRing that stretches to fit any sized man or penetrative toy. For guys, the Fluttering can give you a harder erection and ladies; its massaging vibrations can massage all your hot spots making your orgasms feel even better.

5. Evolved’s Bendable YOU TOO is a new sex toy with dual motors and 7 functions for twice the intensity to use alone or with a partner as a romance enhancer, G-spot or Prostate stimulator.

6. Evolved’s Bendable Flexems bends to whatever position you want to ensure maximum stimulation. Soft, pliable, stylish and waterproof, the Flexems contour to your shape while its three hypnotic speeds ensure the ultimate erogenous experience.

7. The We-Vibe is a couples vibrator, worn while making love. It’s anatomical shape will fit womens internal contours and will naturally and comfortably nestle in and massage the G-Spot. The flexible We-Vibe will conform inside a woman to accommodate the shape of her vagina while making love in different positions.

8. The Screaming O is a vibrating cock ring that is disposable, lasts for 30 minutes with strong vibrations to tickle her pleasure while keeping him hard. Great for simultaneous multiple orgasms.

9. Digital Playground’s Pirates Pendant Vibe looks like jewelry, but doubles as a compact vibrator. It can deliver five powerful vibrational functions by a simple touch of a button.
10. Liberator Sex Furniture offers lounges, benches and beds to set the scene for seduction while remaining discreet and not revealing its dual nature. When not in play this modern foam furniture cradles your curves, helping to recharge your sexual energy.
A final note before using sex toys is that it’s always a good idea to have some lubricant at hand before you need it as lubes can add more sensuality and comfort to having sex. I recommend System JO lubes which contain the finest quality pharmaceutical grade ingredients.
November 12, 2010  

Kissing Ritual

Do you know that kissing is the first sexual activity to diminish when couples are growing apart? It’s because resentment sets in and sexual chemistry turns off. So keep the juices flowing with a daily dose of kissing.

Kiss your lover at least twice a day in the morning and at night, but make your smooches last for at least 12 seconds! This
is a sure way to maintain passion and intimacy in your relationship.

Go to Kissing School and take Loveology University’s Kissing Certification Course. Inside you will learn everything you ever wanted to know about the most intimate act of kissing. There’s a lot more to kissing than two lips meeting and by the end of this course, you’ll be an expert on the history of kissing, the latest scientific research, dozens of sexy kissing tips and techniques, games, positions, places to kiss and you’ll discover what your kissing style says about you.

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November 9, 2010  

Cougarism

I’ve been called a Cougar and I take it as a compliment since I do believe that mature women have a lot to offer their lovers. Older women are finally being accepted and validated for their sex appeal and in the process, making every young man’s ultimate sex fantasy a reality.

A Cougar has life experience, wisdom and confidence, and knows what she wants. She can communicate both openly and honestly, is in her sexual prime, has fewer inhibitions and knows how to satisfy her lover. She will not play the usual games that young kittens in their twenties play. Her appeal is that of nurturing mother combined with wildly seductive temptress, making the relationship all the more taboo and exciting!

Older women dating and marrying younger men isn’t going away. Women will have achieved true liberation when older women can date or even marry younger men without anyone batting an eye or dropping a jaw.

What do you think about Cougar hook-ups with younger men and do you think the relationship can last? Who is your favorite Cougar?

November 5, 2010  

Sex Herbs

As part of National Month of Impotence Education I’d like to share some breakthroughs in the treatment of sexual dysfunction with natural herbs. Sex drive in both men and women can be enhanced with herbs, so can longer lasting erections, female lubrication and more intense orgasms all resulting in sexual satisfaction. Herbs are drugs and can interact with other medications you may be taking so always check with your medical doctor to determine if they are right for you. Among the more popular and effective herbs are the following:

Ginkgo Biloba – Ginkgo is the oldest living tree species on earth for 150 – 200 million years. This Chinese herb is known for relieving tension and anxiety, improving mental alertness, elevating moods and restoring energy, increasing blood flow to the genitals especially for men and improving all age-related problems.  Ginkgo Biloba is one of the most well researched herbs in the world.

Dong-quai – Also known as Chinese Angelica, is primarily used in treating women’s conditions such as loss of sexual desire, PMS and menopause. Women have discovered this 5,000-year-old tradition that naturally provides balancing and normalizing support for women’s unique rhythms, cycles and body systems.  However, it increases the effects of hormones in both men and women, and is also widely used as an aphrodisiac.

Fo-Ti-Tieng – Known as the elixir of long life, this herb has been used for over 2000 years in China to promote relaxation and improve memory, but has become popular as a powerful sexual stimulant. Modern research indicates that this herb contains an alkaloid that has a rejuvenating effect on the nerves, brain cells and endocrine glands.

Muria Puama – Potency Wood is what this powerful herb is affectionately called. A study conducted by the UCLA School of Medicine has shown that use of this herb has produced significant improvement in both erectile function and sexual desire.  This extract is derived from the roots and bark of a little-known Amazonian tree.  It increases blood flow to the pelvic area causing erections and increased sensation, and it enhances the production of sexual hormones.

Yohimbe – This is the only herb listed in The Physicians Desk Reference Book as a natural aphrodisiac for both men and women. This extract is derived from the bark of a large tree that grows in tropical West Africa. Researchers in a Stanford University study investigated Yohimbe’s long time reputation as an aphrodisiac.  The study showed that subjects experienced a 90% increase in sexual desire in less than one hour.

Damiana – This “lover’s herb” contains alkaloids, which stimulate blood flow to the genitals & increase sensitivity. The damiana leaf has been used to boost sexual potency by the natives of Mexico, including the Mayan Indians. Since the 19th century this herb has been used as an overall body tonic to stimulate the circulation of the body which raises energy levels for men and women.

Ginseng (panax ginseng) – The most commonly used type is Chinese Ginseng renowned for increasing sexual vitality. Ginseng is widely used in the United States to boost energy, normalize glucose levels after meals in diabetics, stimulate immune function and treat male impotence.

Epimedium – Also known as “Horny Goat Weed” dates back to at least 400 A.D., where it was used as a tonic for the reproductive system (boosting libido and treating impotence) and as a rejuvenating tonic (to relieve fatigue), as well as for infertility and premature ejaculation. It is believed that Epimedium may be able to restore levels of testosterone and thyroid hormones.

Avena Sativa – Also known as Wild Oat has been used as a natural alternative to Viagra, Cialis and Levitra without the same side effects.  There is some evidence that Avena Sativa is effective for treating impotence and it can increase sexual desire in men and women.  It is a biologically standardized extract of green oats which contain an ingredient that stimulates sexual feelings and behavior in light of such expressions as “feeling your oats” or “sowing your wild oats”.  Historically, the earliest reference to the sexually stimulating effects of oats was found in the German Pharmacopoeia 200 years ago. Researchers at the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality discovered that Avena Sativa works by freeing up testosterone, which becomes increasingly bound to various compounds within the body with advancing age.  Freed-up testosterone is more effective in stimulating the sex centers in the brain.  Testosterone is responsible for stimulating sexual activity in women as well as in men.

On a final note, avoid Spanish Fly – Also known as Cantharis Vesicatoria, which are dried, crushed green blister beetles. When they are pressed into powder form, they are sold in capsules and ingested by men who want to improve their erections. On the contrary, Spanish Fly causes painful swelling and irritation of the urinary tract, which used to be mistaken for sexual arousal. Research done in 1996 by the FDA shows that the drug has no so-called sexual effects and it is now illegal in the United States.

For more herbs and aphrodisiacs, take an online certified course from Loveology University at: http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=32

November 3, 2010  

Communication for Lovers

This is World Communication Week and people in every relationship have disagreements so here are some tips on how to fight fair. When arguments occur between lovers, a small one can turn into something massive that can actually destroy a relationship if the partners approach the argument the wrong way. Never fear! You can disagree without destroying your relationship. However justified you may feel in blaming someone for something, it will simply lead to increased tension, resentment and defensiveness. So, state your complaint about the situation, but do not blame the person’s personality or character. In other words, follow these rules and fight fair!

NEVER

Ambush your partner unexpectedly

Call her/him by an offensive name

Criticize h/h personally (criticizing the behavior is ok)

Bring up old arguments

Threaten the relationship

Compare your partner to past lover/s

Go to bed angry

Do not attack your partner by bringing up the issue/s in question at the wrong time. Bad timing can be very inconsiderate and even more destructive.

Don’t wait too long to discuss little disagreements. You don’t want them to escalate your emotions so that you resent the other person. Relationships can end too soon because people store up the little disagreements until they have assumed giant proportions.

Always make statements that start with “I” instead of “You”! Focus your words on how you feel rather than criticizing your partner.

Be clear! Don’t expect anyone to be able to read your mind. If you can think it, then you can say it clearly and concisely. Just think before you speak.

Be polite! By adding words such as “please” and “thank you,” your partner will better appreciate what you have to say.

Take a Communication Certification Course where you will find the tools necessary for you to communicate with anyone, anywhere at anytime.  This course is for you if:

  • You want to Learn the Difference Between Male and Female Communication
  • You want to Be Comfortable Communicating Your Needs and Desires
  • You want to Have the Skills to Apply Various Communication Styles for Any Situation
  • You want to Be Confident Using Erotic Talk During Lovemaking

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November 1, 2010  

Please Your Lover’s G-spot

Both men and women have an internal erogenous zone that can lead to mind blowing orgasms when stimulated. To stimulate her G-spot, insert a lubricated finger and curl it upward in a “come here” motion with your palm facing upward. Imagine a small clock inside her sacred space and aim your finger up between 11 and 1 o’clock (with 12:00 pointing towards her navel), then gently tap, tap, tap and ask your lover for feedback. Use the same directions for finding the male G-spot, also known as his prostate, but insert your finger into his back door and feel for a chestnut-sized gland. Please your lover by exploring all of their internal and external erogenous zones to heighten sexual arousal and satisfaction.